Monday, August 9, 2010

And the answer is...?????

and without further delay, my thoughts on my "Big Question" post follow.....

#1 Thank you SO much to all my guys rock and had some very good things to say, all of which I took to heart.
#2 I also agree that there is a LOT that goes into this decision....and, sometimes, not much at all. Nature often takes the reins and makes the decision for us. Maybe that's the best way???
#3 Personally, I think we are looking at the 2 1/2 -3 year plan. For multiple reasons. Many of which have been said. But, looking at our life, my job, and my desires to have more time off with a second child, this seems to fit. I think that by the time Forrest is about 3 we will be financially well off enough for me to take time off...months off...which is what I really really want to do at this point. 7 weeks is just NOT enough time....
#4 And, last but not least, I LOVE my little boy right now. The desire to have a baby is there, but Forrest is amazing me with his smiles, giggles, the way he is growing by leaps and bounds, and all that he is taking in and learning. AND......I have to think that adding another child into the mix earlier might have taken away from this experience? I know some of you have children close together and that is an experience that is joyous in itself, perhaps more adventitious for the kids. My spacing may be a bit selfish for ME, my personal desire to soak up as much as I can from Forrest one on one before our lives are fulfilled yet again....This may also stem from my busy job, but this wonderful Forrest is also such an energy suck....and I am thoroughly fulfilled in so many ways right now...and thoroughly exhausted.

So, that last bit is entirely personal stuff. I know it is different for every mama, every papa, and every different family dynamic and profession. But it's how I feel now.

And now, my pillow calls....:-)


Sheelagh said...

Well said. I think you are right that it's a really personal decision and I have been feeling the same way about just wanting to spend all my time with Jonah and watch him grow up. I am happy that I don't have a new baby in my arms right now like I did when Mayzie turned 17month, but I also look back on that and think, as hard as it was, it was my personal experience and I wouldn't change it.
Best of luck to you guys. It's not easy raising a family and planning the next steps. There is so much that goes into these BIG decisions. Which ever way you chose, I am sure that Forest is having a ball out there in your wonderful world with such great parents!

Fultmeyer Clan said...

thanks Sheelagh! You and your amazing family often calm my anxiety about having a all have so much fun and are such wonderful parents! Thanks for being the best at this parenting job thing....:-)